Woman, 51, who never gave up hope of having a family in her late 40s is now a proud mother after a distant relative texted to ask her to adopt her baby
- Kris Monsour, now 51, from Ohio, become a mother for the first time at 49
- She fulfilled her lifelong dream after spending over $19k on adoption
- Kris didn’t let her age get in the way of her dream and adopted Ainsley, now two
A woman has fulfilled her lifelong dream of becoming a mother after a text out of the blue from a distant relative, asking if she’d be interested in adopting her baby.
Kris Monsour, from Canal Winchester, Ohio, now 51, spent more than ten years trying for children and suffered two miscarriages before deciding to adopt a newborn baby.
Kris was 49 when she and her husband adopted Ainsley, now two, in March 2020, and spent $19,000 on the process.
Kris Monsour, from Canal Winchester, Ohio, now 51, fulfilled her lifelong dream and become a mother for the first time at 49 after spending more than $19,000 on adoption. Pictured: In hospital with her daughter Ainsley, who was born to a distant relative
Kris, 51, and Clay, 47, pictured with Ainsley, are not worried about their age because they say that a long life is never guaranteed no matter how young or old you are
Ainsley wearing her adoption tshirt. The couple adopted her in November 2020, after being approached by a distant relative who was pregnant
The executive insurance director said: ‘During my first marriage, I really wanted children, but I suffered a miscarriage at 38.
‘My ex-partner and I discussed IVF and other routes, but never went ahead with the process as our marriage ended up falling apart due to it being quite toxic.
‘When I met my current husband, Clay, 47, I got pregnant very quickly, but lost the baby at the three-month mark.
‘A doctor ended up basically telling me that I should just stop trying and that I was never going to be a mother.
When Kris met her current husband, Clay (pictured with Ainsley) she got pregnant very quickly, but sadly lost the baby at the three-month mark
Ainsley just after being born: Her adoptive parents spent more than $19,000 on legal fees and other expenses during the ‘longwinded’ process
For seven years, the desire to become a mother never left Kris’ mind, and she often found herself holding out hope that there may still be a chance
When one afternoon in 2019, a distant relative text out of the blue to see if Kris and Clay, an entrepreneur, were still interested in having children and whether they would consider adoption. Now they are proud parents to Ainsley (pictured with Kris)
Kris made the decision that they were going to adopt because it felt ‘absolutely right’ at the time
‘It was a huge gut punch, but I was determined to focus on my job.’
For seven years, the desire to become a mother never left Kris’ mind, and she often found herself holding out hope that there may still be a chance.
Then one afternoon in 2019, a distant relative texted out of the blue to see if Kris and Clay, an entrepreneur, were still interested in having children and whether they would consider adoption.
Kris added: ‘We made the decision that we were going to do it, it absolutely felt right.
‘We adopted from the family member who reached out, as a kinship, although they don’t want to be named.
They were there for the ultrasound, and at the hospital when she was born, Kris even got to cut the cord (Ainsley’s ultrasound)
The couple left the hospital with Ainsley, and they brought her home before they officially adopted her in March 2020
Bonding moment: Clay and Ainsley catching some sleep during Daddy-daughter nap time
Clay, pictured feeding Ainsley. Overall adoption process cost the couple about $19,500 altogether but they have been inundated with support from their extended relatives and friends
The couple were there every step of the way during the pregnancy and the birth of little Ainsley
‘We were there every step of the way during the pregnancy and the birth.
‘We were there for the ultrasound, and at the hospital when she was born, I even got to cut the cord.
‘We left the hospital with Ainsley, and we officially adopted her in March 2020.
‘The process was longwinded as there were lots of legal fees and we had to pay social services to come and do checks.
‘So the overall adoption process cost about $19,500 altogether..’
Kris received backlash on social media from trolls stating that she is too old to be a mother and that she will die before seeing Ainsley’s biggest milestones
Kris said all of her extended family and close relatives have welcomed Ainsley with open arms, and she has ‘so much love around her’
Kris’ little family has been inundated with support from her extended relatives and friends.
But she has had backlash on social media from trolls stating that she is too old to be a mother and that she will die before seeing Ainsley’s biggest milestones.
‘All of my extended family and close relatives have welcomed Ainsley with open arms, and we love the fact she’s got so much love around her.
‘As she grows up, we hope to explain to her in an age-appropriate way that she has been adopted.
After Kris shared her story on TikTok she had a lot of trolls saying that she wasn’t suitable to be a mother because of her age
On social media people said that Kris was too old to be a mother and that she was being selfish by adopted a baby
Kris said she does have some worries that she won’t see some of Ainsley’s achievements, but they are taking everything one day at a time
‘I shared my story via TikTok and had a lot of trolls come out of nowhere saying that I wasn’t suitable to be a mother, that I was too old, that I was being selfish.
‘I’ve never seen it that way and know that a long life is never guaranteed no matter how young or old you are.
‘I do have some worries that I won’t see some of Ainsley’s achievements, but we’re taking everything one day at a time, and trying to live and thrive within every moment.
Kris shares her experiences with motherhood through TikTok and donates all her social media earnings to a charity close to her heart called the Fairfield Foster Closet which provides clothes to foster children and adopted kids for free.
A proud day! Clay, Ainsley and Kris finalising the adoption at the court house in November 2020
Making it official! Ainsley as a baby pictured sitting in the judges chair whilst being adopted
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