I text my ex every Christmas eve – why am I so obsessed with her?

DEAR DEIDRE: I TEXT my ex every year on Christmas Eve. I have deleted her number so many times, but because I know it off by heart I always give in and dial her digits.

I’m a 33-year-old man and my ex is 31.


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I still have feelings for her even though she broke up with me six years ago.

I can’t get her out of my head and desperately want her back.

We have so much in common. We come from the same background and have the same interests and goals.

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I have tried so hard to move on. I have dated other girls, but soon lose ­interest and never feel a connection with them in the way I did with my ex.

My head is wrecked. I feel like she is the one who got away. Should I try to get back with her?

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DEIDRE SAYS: If you are still obsessed with her, you are in no state to start another relationship or see the real potential in other friendships.

Accept there is no love without risk of hurt.

Learn by thinking about what went wrong in that relationship so you can take away a positive and avoid making the same mistakes.

Make an effort to say a final goodbye to your ex, then pack your social life with chances to meet someone new.

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